Share! Your! Care!

Share Your Care!

This is very important.

Let other people help you!

You don’t realize how much your problems affect the people around you. Your friends and family want to help. Why won’t you let them?

Frankly, they feel better when you let them help. You are not the only one who gets feelings of helplessness. Your friends and family feel the same way if you deny them the opportunity to care for you. Helping makes people feel less helpless. It makes them feel good!

CAREGIVERS DON'T EVER SAY

"Call me if there’s anything I can do."

You mean it and are sincere but,Generally a person who is ill or needs help will never call. Whetherit is pride, embarrassment, or just that they don't want toinconvenience you, it most likely won't happen.So the person is need never calls,and you don’t know a graceful way to volunteer.They never get the help they need.You never have the chance to express your friendship.
Caregivers say instead,"May I bring dinner tomorrow?"I am available all day tomorrow, may I cook or drive or shop?Be specific about when you are available and what you can offer.It is a win win

Mind, Spirit, and Rental Property

I used to think of mind and body as one, working together. But  now I think of the body as an entity all it’s own - rental property. 

I am the mind and spirit. The body is a home where I will only temporarily reside. And so that I don’t get evicted sooner than necessary I have to take care of it, repair it, patch it, and keep it moving. Sometimes I wonder if my landlord is paying close attention.

Banish the Dark Thoughts! There is No Room for the Monkey on your Back.

Simply put, there are two parts to getting better. One is physical and the other is emotional.

Physical - Making a decision about your treatment. Don't put it off!

Get 2 or 3 second opinions, or as many as you need to make and be comfortable with the decision. Yes, you will find many doctors that are qualified but ultimately, you need to be comfortable and trust the physician you are choosing to take care of your life. Nobody else will care more about your health than you,  so take charge, make a decision and then deal with the emotional aspects.

Emotional - It's just as important as the physical aspect. 

The physical part can be hard but you may find the emotional part extremely difficult to deal with as well. I was so sad, scared and felt so alone. Sometimes I would wake up in the night out of a deep sleep completely terrified.

Fortunately, I realized that the emotional part was totally up to me to fix. That was really hard to grasp because I wanted someone, something, to fix it for me. You have to realize that your family is going through something different than you and have their own issues dealing with the effects of illness. They really didn’t understand what I was going through,  just as I didn’t know what they were going through. 

I had done what I could do for my physical being but nothing for my emotional well being. I knew I was an emotional mess and needed help. There are many wonderful support networks to reach out to for comfort. Seek them out. They help.

  • Religious guidance

  • Counselors at hospitals

  • Transcendental meditation

  • Mindful mediation

I realized I needed to find something to hold on to in order to stay positive and stay away from 'the dark side.' As hard as it can be, try and look to the positive because losing yourself to your darker emotions will only bring more fear, more bad feelings, and possibly a poorer prognoses.

At this point, it feel like I will never know if I have been cured. Each day, I only know that I have been told I not am sick. That old phrase of 'having a monkey on your back' comes to mind. He is always present, trying to remind me that I am in remission. He may live on my back for the rest of my life, but I do my best to keep him at bay.

Find a way to banish dark thoughts as soon as they come, there is no room for the monkey.

Chemo Kit: your most valued secret weapons

You may not need all of these options, but if they help to protect you, why not?

Oh and of course, please don't forget to check with your doctor first.

Nails - Tea Tree Oil

This can easily be found at your local health food store. Rub this into your nails and nail beds 2 times a day to help prevent fungus. Since chemotherapy drugs target rapidly-growing cells, your hair, mouth, and nail cells are likely to bear some damage. With this damage, the rates of infection and fungus increase, which is where the Tea Tree Oil comes into play. If you have never interacted with Tea Tree Oil before, spot test this out first to make sure your body doesn't have any negative reactions to it.